Good post, this issue was a MAJOR red flag to me when I first came in. At first I just rolled with it as I was caught up in the moment of the promise of everlasting life and the end being just around the corner, could smell it like the rain it was said. This was 15 years ago. Co dependency and lack of boundary issues led to my eventual burn out and major depression. Do something against your very nature and eventually you'll pay the price with your health.
Had high blood pressure, chronic fatigue and suicidal depression issues from this.